My son was invited to his friends 8th birthday party which was yesterday…. I let the mum know that my son would be able to go and if me and my youngest could go too. (I haven’t taken him to his friends house yet let alone leave him at birthday parties by himself) The mum told me we could and we headed to the party. The party started at 3pm at a play frame jungle gym time place. When we got there there were already two other birthday parties going on as well as my sons friends. (Crazy busy.)
We got to the reception desk and I explained we were there for the party and had to sign the list. They asked me if both my kids were invited (I thought back to the text the mum sent me which allowed for me and my youngest to come along too and saw that as an invite) I told the desk person that yes they were and they took their trainers and said they would be in the party room before we leave so no need to go back to the desk for them.
We head round to the reserved party sofas where the other parents are and I see my sons other friends dad sat on the sofa looking miserable on his phone. (Texting, browsing I dunno.) I say hello to the birthday boys mum and my son has already asked me if he could go off to play which I say yes too. (First time letting him run around in this place with out me watching his every move – there is a reason why I keep an eye on my kids when they are playing in these public play places.)
My little one wakes up from her nap and wants to play so I take y shoes off and go off to play with her. After a while of her playing in the under twos area I ask her if she would like to climb up the climbing frame and go down the slides with me which she excitedly agreed to. We head up the climbing frame foam steps, along the rope bridge and through the obstacle courses and then up the big platform steps and make it to the slide I pop her on my lap and we whiz down, we do this with two other slides and then repeat all 3 again. (It’s great to see how much fun she is having and I love playing in these things with my kids.)
Every now and then I look around for my son just to make sure he is okay and enjoying himself but shocked to see I was the only parent from the party who was playing with my kids and making sure they are alright… The birthday boy has a younger brother and sisters who is only a year older and a year younger than my own little one and they are running around unsupervised being knocked down and trampled and wondering off without the mum even looking for them as she was on the other side of the place. (I just couldn’t understand how you could be so relaxed in leaving your children who are quite young to just roam about by themselves.)
It has been a couple of years since we came to this place and the last time my son was playing with a football and in the ball area when another child came up to him and started to strangle him! I was shocked and ran straight over there and yanked the child away from mine. I told the boy off and demanded he take me to his parents. needless to say he ignored me and just ran off to which I took my sons hand and followed this boy to the table who ever was supposed to be looking after him.
Apparently his grandmother was at the table and when I asked if she was responsible for him she said the mum was outside. I explained the situation and told her I expected not only an apology from the boy but an explanation as to why he thought what he did was okay and why he did it in the first place. her excuse to why he wouldn’t say it was because he didn’t speak English…. I told her whether you speak the language or not, you know when something is good or bad and putting your hands on someone else and strangling them is clearly a bad thing to do! The mum came back and the grandmother explained everything to her and the mum and grandmother apologized but I explained it’s the boy that should be apologizing…. (Something I stick by even with my own kids is that if they can’t play nicely with others or know how to be kind, polite, well mannered or know wrong from right then they shouldn’t be playing in a place where there is other children) I’m sorry but strangling is never okay!
Back to the party we got called to one of the slides so that the birthday boy and his friends could have a birthday photo taken with a dressed up elephant… My little girl didn’t like that. (But then again she has become a bit scared of all the masked things to do with Halloween lately.) We got taken into the party room where the table was ready for the kids to have some party food. I think a couple of kids didn’t turn up as two seats weren’t taken so me and my little girl sat down and we were offered food. (This also made me feel better about saying my little girl was invited to the desk people.) Another thing that shocked me was that none of the other parents were eating or drinking where as I was being offered all of the food with the birthday boys mum telling me it all needs to be eaten so I can eat as much as I want looking disappointed that the other parents didn’t want any…. Didn’t have to tell me twice!
I happily sat there eating and drinking what was given to me and enjoying seeing my son laugh and talk to his friends. (have you ever sat there seeing and listening to a 7-8 year olds conversation? Quite funny actually.) And I looked over to the the only dad in the room and he was still on his phone… fifteen minutes later he was telling his son to put his jumper on (the cake or should I say cakes! there were two cakes ! Hadn’t even been lit, blown or cut yet let alone ice cream that was about to be served) and then only let him have two spoonfuls of ice cream! (It was only two scoops in each bowl…) He was able to have cake in the end though which I was glad about (I felt sorry for the boy) and then they left. The kids all got sweets as a party bag thing and the kids ate it on the walk home.
So all in all it was a good party, the kids enjoyed themselves, I was able to play with my daughter and even enjoy party food which I am sure my PT will not be happy about but oh well!
What kind of parent are you? Have you ever been in these situations before? How would you have reacted and dealt with that?
Thanks for reading! 🙂
x Emz x